Negative body language can be a breaking point in relationships. Regardless if you’ve just met or have known a person for years, one wrong move — or lack thereof in some cases — can make those around you feel as if you’re no longer interested the conversation they’re giving you. And while things like not looking at someone or turning your body away from them while talking are known to be negative body languages, Lauren Crain — digital marketer at Health Labs— told INSIDER that you may be surprised to realize how many of them have actually been misunderstood.
“All nonverbal signals are ambiguous and open to interpretation,” she said. “Don't believe that just because someone performs one nonverbal signal it means that they automatically think a certain way; there are many meanings to single nonverbal signals, and sometimes, they don't mean anything at all.”
Take a look at these six commonly misunderstood body languages to see if there are any that have made you ruin potential relationships through assumption.
Lacking eye contact.
Just like crossing your arms is usually deemed as a disrespectful, not giving someone eye contact can be, too. According to body language expert and author of "The Human Whisperer: Mastering The Art of Understanding, Connecting With, and Influencing Others"Steven Keyl though, this sign can be misunderstood more than you know.
"No eye contact means someone is lying, right? WRONG,” said Keyl. "If someone is shy, nervous, or just thinking about the question, they may not meet our gaze very often. In some cultural groups, eye contact with an authority figure is viewed as a sign of disrespect. In fact, habitual liars typically engage in more eye contact than normal. They know that looking someone in the eye is perceived as a sign of truthfulness. So if someone makes too much eye contact, that would be a reason to doubt them. In general, however, this cue will mislead more often than not."
Crossing your legs.
If you’ve ever thought someone crossing their legs to be disrespectful, you may have that all wrong.
"Crossed legs can be a confusing signal. Some say it demonstrates open relaxation, others say it shows the person is defensive," Keyl told INSIDER. "The truth is that it depends on the context and positioning. A person standing with their legs cross and weight shifted on one leg is typically projecting an attitude casual relaxation. That same person seated in a "figure-4" crossed leg position, with their arms holding their top leg in place is closed off and no longer fully engaging. As with so many body language cues, context is king."
Swinging your legs.
According to Keyl, this or other fidgety behavior could just be a helpful option to those undergoing stress.
"If someone can’t stop swinging their legs or engaging in other fidgety behavior, it is often associated with guilt or someone who is trying to hide the truth," Keyl said. "In fact, these behaviors are ways of reducing stress and anxiety. Both guilty and innocent alike will engage in these types of behaviors. They are not indicative of deception; rather, they show the person is feeling stressed about the situation or the line of questioning, but it does NOT provide insight as to whether someone is being truthful."
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